Does time really heal?

Does time really heal? [+ favourites]

Im not sure if this topic goes into this thread, but dose times really heal? Im going to say that it dosent because mostly you have to just get over the event. I noticed the only times i got over some faliures was after I decided to let them go, it took me 1 1/2 years to get over that one episode. Thoughts?

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For the most part, it doesn't. I've seen people be haunted by an event for years, and then after they told someone else about it, they were completely recovered the next day. Time only heals the insignificant wounds, nothing more.

"He who does not question is lost."

Time is an event horizon. The question is whether you make the next horizon or whether it makes you.

Time heals all wounds eventually.

""No words""

could you possibly ellaborate on it more, about the horizones.

Time is a series of events; so each new event flows into the next but with a series of steps (horizons) which we perceive. We have a choice. We can flow with these or choose to change these horizons.

We can let things just happen and go along with what happens; as in the song 'que sera sera'. This is when we submit to what happens; and let time do to us what it will. In the context of time healing; it will heal the wounds slowly by changing how we see what has happened, and by bringing eventually a new and fresh means of happiness.

The opposite is when we choose to make the best of a situation and look towards the future. To make the future what we want it to be. This way we are more in control but the risk is self-reliance. In this sense, we can either make the wounds heal slower or faster depending on the steps we take in doing so.

If I imagine a river the first way is like being the river; the second way is like trying to change the course of the river. Of course, most people vary about the middle of these two ends.

""No words""

I believe time exists because distance exists. If you think about it, really niether of them do. They are used more so in comparison to scales. Big or little. Its the difference between one piece of matter and another. Think about it. The only reason you have to walk to the fridge...is because your not big enough to already be at the fridge. The "smaller" you are, is the more time it takes to travel a distance. Smaller being compared to --->what already was.( the fridge...or a point ) And bigger in the same respect. Speed is the ability to cover "Larger" quantities of ground/distance in comparison to the vessels size. People call a remote control car which can do thirty ..fast. It is compared to other remote control cars, but not in the grande scheme of things.

Time allows a process. Step by step. One foot infront of the other. And clearly healing is a process...because you cant heal something that hasnt been ruptured. (Ruptered/health altered in a negative way.) In comparison to what was already.

"In this world, we are never lacking. Only losing what we have in hope of gaining what we dont."

i dont think time actually heals, our brains understand that traumatic experiences are just that, traumatic, and forces us to have a distorted view or memory of the event (such as woman giving birth, their brain somewhat forgets the painful experience in order to not discourage them from giving birth again). Those who couldnt heal over time, they simply died out

"down to smoke a bowl?"

Time may heal the wound…
But memory is the scar…

Sometimes the trauma is significant enough to remove part of your self that cannot be replaced…
And here, the memory makes it worse, like with ‘phantom pain’…

Maybe the best way is to allow yourself to forget, then you don’t really need to forgive…
Even bad things are important to remember, to make sure the same does not happen again…

"There is no negative one..."

I agree with you Black Gold and damman2.

I think that it's not necessarily healing in the sense of coming to terms with what may have happened or learning from it, but more a matter of how your perceptions of the event change over time.

There are many things that can contribute to this. In individuals, the memory of painful events fade, so the pain has no choice but to fade with it.

In societies, past tragedies are forgotten over time. The society does not necessarily come to comfortable terms with the event or learn from it, but it still seems less and less tragic to them as time goes on.

what you all say is true; but 'truth' changes.

scenario 1
something happens
perceived as bad
blame goes on that something
causes helplessness
seek to understand
understood
call it truth
still something bad has happened; its still pain.
repeat unless help is offered

scenario 2
something happens
perceived as bad
learn to deal with or accept
look for solution
pursue solution if available
if solution unavailable accept and move on
if unable seek help.

the 'time' this takes in scenario 1 is up to others.
the 'time' this takes in scenario 2 is up to you.

The first scenario will take 'time' relative to a clock. The second scenario will take 'time' relative to your will/ hope/ you, etc; in truth time is not relative to anything here; its part of you. thats what we might call strength of character.

ekimup I like your thinking. If on a clock; we measure in minutes then between the minutes are seconds joined up by micro-seconds, between these there are nano-seconds, keep drawing, exponentially until you see that eventually the time intervals are joined by infinity; aka flowing; pure processes; not 'steps'. The steps are only seen because of finite references. This is why it would be good to go at the speed of light.

""No words""

I think that time heals some wounds... when time passes i feel its a process and time is to thank for that i guess. I feel that time heals all wounds and from my experience it definitely is a progress, i wake up everyday thinking 'lord make me stronger' and in time you have the strength without hesitation to throw a smile on your face and believe all is aiight once again... Time does heal eventually...

""there is nothing like a dream to create a future\\\\\\\' Huge Grant"

its a good ?
idk mayb it does mayb it doesn't
i think that time heals u'r emotions like it does u'r body. Somethings will heal just fine with time and others take months years,lifetimes to get over like scars i think the most impornent thing is that you don't forget y wht ever hurt. hurt

Time does not heal, YOU make you heal.

"Thy Lovest Soul"

time doesnt turn back time or make you not remember things...so i think time does not heal

""every advance in knowledge faces us with the mystery of our own being""

but once agian that's your mind telling you that

(sorry didnt read the last post good enough ^_^ my apollogies)

"Thy Lovest Soul"
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