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I read a book called "Don't swear the small stuff". Perhaps a few others of you have read it? There was one topic that went over the "skill" of listening to someone. Too often, people are forced to compete for the chance to talk to each other, basically defeating the purpose of a conversation altogether.
There are two basic forms of "listening" One is hearing. This is the same hearing used to hear a car horn outside while you were trying to watch your favorite television program. Many people only "hear" what the other person is saying when they engage in a "conversation", (and I use the term loosely)rather than actually LISTENING to them. The other form of listening should be the only form that deserves the right to be called so. Actual listening involves taking in what the person has to say, and usually waiting a few moments after they are done talking to give that person the satisfaction that you were actually paying attention to them. I cannot describe how surprized I was the last time I realized someone was actually LISTENING to what I have to say.
Obviously, it is a habit many of us form, that we try to shoot back our own opinions it seems like we are in an argument, of all things! My friends, this is not the way to carry a conversation. Take in what people say to you, and you may find out they do the same for you in return.
"He who refuses to seek will never learn"
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