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AW's Monogamy

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 26yrs • M
A CTL of 1 means that awakendwraith is a contributing member of Captain Cynic.
AW's Monogamy
I have been with my fiance for 5 years and 4 months.

Since I was 18 years old, and not before it, I have had at least one sexual encounter just about every day. In the first year of my relationship we didn't live with each other, so make that about 3 to 4 a week.

I have never picked up a chick. Meaning, I have never had to go through the humility, never had to play the games, never had to gain the confidence, never had to crack the safe to some girls panties. I have always just had it. And a lot of it.

I find this very interesting because most men HAVE had to do these things, and have spent a great deal of thier time and energy on them. Seeking vagina IS very well many mens entire existence. From having the money to feel secure enough to ask a girl out, to having the body. Playing the social games is probably a head ache of a couple years in of itself. And then there's all the time spent alone. All the time being horny... All of these thing I have not expereinced past highschool.

For me, sex is just a part of my life, my home, and my relationship. She doesn't use it as currency. We don't shy away from talking about it or exploring it. In fact, a hobby of ours is watching porn that makes us in\\uncomfortable and figuring out why. Sometimes its because those people are fucked up, other times its because we ourselves have been harboring a level of innocence we were ignorant of. The latter is always a lot of fun.

But my point is, I, as a man, have only had sex with one person. My highschool sweet heart. I've never had an adult break up, and I've never even been to a bar or club. The perspective I hold on what sex is, seeking sex, and having sex is a very rare one because I have a lot of very plesurable sex and have never had to "find" it like most other men have to.

I have always wondered what other men feel about this. For the most part, I am clueless as to how to pick up a chick, but it doesn't really affect me, therefor I feel no insecurity towards it. My experience has been fullfilling.

Now, this is not to say that I don't find other women sexy, or that I don't have the urge to have sex with them. And, if I chose to pursue, regardless of my probable failure (idk girls find my attractive and interesting maybe I could pull it off) its not like my relationship would end over it. We are open to the fact that both of us will probably at some point have sex with someone else, if for no other reason than to know if different genitals really feel that different or not.

I'm curious how other guys feel about this.

How has your pursuit of sex shaped you?

How would you feel if you were in my position?

How do you feel about my lack of pursuit yet accesibility?

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"Why cry for those that often cry? Instead, help them smile, and smile for those that smile."
 53yrs • M
A CTL of 1 means that manbible is a contributing member of Captain Cynic.
In a word...Jealous, honestly! But not for the usual reasons. To have the experience you do with your partner and to only have had it with each other is special. Especially the way you described it.

Your speculations on what it was like being single are pretty accurate. That is the way it was.

You mentioned that you know it's inevitable that you guys will eventually sleep with another. I hope not for your sakes because when you do you'll realize you've lost something very special. Your relationship may survive but polluted thoughts will begin to taint it. And you will never get that unique specialness back. As much as my wife and I love each other we still wish we had what you have right now. That is one regret that I have, not saving myself for my wife so we could know what it's like to share that together A unique oneness that only the two of you share. Congratulations.

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"To love oneself is to love others."
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 42yrs • M •
A CTL of 1 means that Adam Seth God is a contributing member of Captain Cynic.
I live a rarity....

first let me say that I believe it has been the opposite of the pursuit of sex that has rewarded most

My fiance' of 5 years relationship... i could say the same - exceptions being

My Girlfriend also like Girls. Has Liked both since before I met her when she was 18...

On our first date I told her I wanted 5
Girlfriends and she could be the Head Girlfriend...

she leaned in and completed the distance with her long elegant neck and kissed me about it

with a silple o.k.


she literally shrugged it off...
not expecting me to be sufficiently culturally baggaged to carry it out... and not expecting her to be up to competeing for women with me...

5 years later...

hubba...

n.e.wayz......... I learned that two women in the same room who are equally invested in the man, (myself), tend to get just as bored, just as restless and complicated in communication

only one would think that it would be twice as laborious... however contrary to that logic ive found something different to be true...

they entertain each other, and when they want male interaction they get my attention

they respect each others communication so they hash their deeper conversation out amongst themselves...

only wooing my attention with niceties

yeah no arguing

5 years later we're on her 2nd technical girlfriend and we're upscaling our residence..

three heads....

keep it one male as far as i can tell

and don't play with jealousy.

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"\\\"The Empty Vessel Makes The Most Noise\\\" - Shakespear"
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