parents trying to ruin it for me ...AGAIN

parents trying to ruin it for me ...AGAIN [+ favourites]

Ok. so heres the problem. I started dating the guyim with now about 2 months ago. Now my parents want to meet his family. NOT GOOD!! Everytime they meet the parents or family of the guys that i date, they insist on telling all the bad things ive ever done, and that kinda makes the family think , well shes done that soo... , and i dont want them to ruin it this time like all the umpteen million other times they have. It makes me sick , and my dad , when he gets new friends or meets someone new that has kids he tells them, and he said he needs to warn them whats in the future for their kids, HE DOES NOT. ITS NOT HIS BUSINESS TO TELL how do i stop this from happening , bc talking doesnt work

"" live life to the fullest""

Be proud of all the bad things that made you who you are and stop doing bad things anymore.

"Hating everyone protects me from elitism."

I realize this post is probably pretty outdated but I'm gonna take a special interest in it anyways in case you decide to look at it again. I'm assuming the families have already met and I don't know how that went but for future reference I think it would be best to tell the parents yourself. The only thing that I have been credited for by my girlfriends parents is being honest, and being courageous. I can't guarantee that telling your boyfriend's parents everything will help you, but they will respect you a lot more for you telling them yourself. That goes along with the other comment on this topic about being proud of what you did. You don't have to be proud necessarily but don't try to deny it. Your past is something you can never get away from. If you don't believe me I would like to suggest a book "The Kite Runner". It's an amazing book that explains just how impossible it is to run from your past. Do the honorable thing, tell his parents yourself, don't seem proud about it, or seem like your bragging, but let them know yourself somehow. I hope everything turns out well for you in the future.

"May wisdom flow through my mind, and love burn in my heart"

I feel your pain, Raven. (about parents ruining it for us. However, it's being done to me, and I'm twenty-four!)

Wait for some more time alone with your boyfriend. Devise a plan to counter this, and tell each other GOOD things that you've done. This will be ideal for if and when the talk occurs. If anything bad is brought up, you can use these lists of good deeds to defend each other.

"You are what you say you are."

when and if your dad tells your boyfriends parents. (depeding on if they have already or wethere you have a knew boyfriend)
tell the parents that youve done those things and that you have learned from them and that you would never do them again.

"sad is the heart that loves. its usually broken"