Lost friend......

Lost friend...... [+ favourites]

How does one feel when they lose a friend un-intentionally?

They feel quite hurt actually. As if they have done this person wrong. They feel like they want very badly to get this friendship back because they feel like a piece of them is missing. That they should be trying to earn the friendship back and at the same time feel like the friendship is not wanted, so that distracts them from trying.

It is very hard to not constantly have thoughts in the back of the mind thinking......why....how....should.....needed....wanted?

What path will be taken? Who is to know?

"My mind is tearing me apart, then it constructively puts me back together again."

I think people forget the value in a friendship if they have suffered during its existence, or experienced negative feelings because of it. Worrying about who is at fault is not important as long as there is no resentment amongst the friends. If the goal is to be friends again, genuinely, then the first step seems to be to remind each other why the friendship is valuable. You can't do this with words usually... selfless actions or simple fun are both methods of re-conditioning each other into an environment where both look kindly at each other and begin to once again rely on one another.

I'm sure many people feel as you do about lost friendships... it is only those that step up and think about how to truly solve it (which may even involve being assertive or sacrifice on their part) that actually succeed in holding onto a friendship that is valuable.

"Hating everyone protects me from elitism."

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If the goal is to be friends again, genuinely, then the first step seems to be to remind each other why the friendship is valuable. You can't do this with words usually... selfless actions or simple fun are both methods of re-conditioning each other into an environment where both look kindly at each other and begin to once again rely on one another.

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"You are what you say you are."

I've strayed away many times from my friends. In fact many people know who I am and know me from my childhood. What I find is usually when I run back into them it seems to be that their just glad to see me and I usually feel the same way. I've lost friends over stupid things but usually over time because those things were so stupid and foolish you forgive people and people forgive you. My friendships seem to just come and go and I'm ok with that.

"I love to see people struggling for their purpose in life..."

show that you dont hold a grudge or any resent ment and that you want to be friends again and if the person still doesnt want to be friends, well there loss.

"sad is the heart that loves. its usually broken"