pain and the first time

pain and the first time [+ favourites]

will i have been worried about the pain ivolved in haveing sex the first time. i know that i ll have a problem because of how big my boyfriend seem. i dont think he will be able to fit in side of me.

"shit happens"

How caring and sensitive is your boyfriend toward you? This is really more of an issue of trust than it is of size. You won't really know how well he will fit inside you until you have tried it a few times, so I would suggest some gentle foreplay, and maybe some good lubricant. Also, talk beforehand about going slowly, so that when he starts to enter you, he knows to ease it in a little bit at a time. Again, this is really an issue of trust.
I hope this helps.

"Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time"

thank you for in put. it is a big help. i still would like more input from more people.

"shit happens"

if you kinda 'warmed up' first, that would help. or use small 'toys'. well you get it.

"Wht cry for those that often cry? Instead, help them smile, and smile for those that smile."

I think if I was a 19 yr old concerned about such a thing, I would break it myself for the first time, but that would be me.

There's no rules here - nothing says you have to, he's just your boy friend.

If I was your boy friend and I thought the pain bothered you, I wouldn't even go there, but then, once again, that's me.

If you think this is something he might force on you or pressure you to, something you might not want to do, you're still young, there are other fish in the sea.

Don't let him do anything you don't want to do, because then you will be angry and hurt, and there are no rules that say you have to go there.

"A fool says I know and a wise man says I wonder."

Just think of how much worse it'll be to have a kid and you'll realize its not a big deal, if mild to strong discomfort does not pass after a few solid sessions, then you are just mismatched to a rare degree and will have to deal with it however you deem necessary.

"The Greatest Enemy of Knowledge is Not Ignorance, It is the ILLUSION of Knowledge. Stephen Hawking"

naturally you can't just go at it and expect it to be pleasureable.. slow and easy until you feel comfortable him being inside of you. If he iss a little bigger that might take a little longer to get used to..That really depends on the girl. some like it bigger and some don't you get the idea. Some kinda of lubricant should be applied [be that what it may]..and mentioned earlier.. it has a lot to do with trust in your partner. trusting he will respect your wishes to stop at anytime if you're feeling any discomfort and won't get mad just because it isn't something you can do right at the time.. gradually work into penetration until again, the comfort level is to where you see fit..

*slow and easy
*adequate amount of lubricant if your partner is circumsized
*condom again lubricated to your liking

just some key points. hope some of this helped

"I'm a human being, God Dammit!! My life has value!!!"

Yeah.. SEX! I just recently lost my V over Christmas break. It was a bad experience though. I was so shitfaced and with a guy 6'5 while im 5ft. OUCH! It was impossible, he couldnt even get 1/2 an inch in. So i don't even know if i should consider that as sex. but yes, i was so embarrassed ! I couldnt sit down or walk right for about a week. no joke.

"little things affect little minds"

That is to bad - I hope your next experience is much better.

"A fool says I know and a wise man says I wonder."

on the issue of size and fitting, that area expands to the size of a babys head. admitedly as far as im aware thats a very painful experience, but there shouldnt be too much of a problem, as i dont think anyone is quite that big. as far as length is concerned, for a guy it is the tip that is most sensitive. but if you are worried, i would agree with the idea of foreplay first, as it will make you looser.

"I tried coding in cocoa but it ran between the keys and shorted my pc"

I hate to sound like a prude - but here is a fine example of why love is important.

If its going to hurt for her on that first time - well then - she better love the guy, otherwise, there is nothing in it for her except a bad experience and possibly hurt feelings that could lead to resentment (going out on a limb here) but its things like this that have created the feminist movement.

"A fool says I know and a wise man says I wonder."

you're probably right there, though i doubt that is the only creator of the feminist movement.

but love is an important part, and so is compromise. you both may have to do things slightly differently to the way tha you want them done, but not do anything totally against your will.

"I tried coding in cocoa but it ran between the keys and shorted my pc"

This has been since Oct. - of course she has already had the sex..
Did it hurt as bad as you thought?
If not de-virginized already , use lube and make-out naked a lot while gently beginning to let the tip of his penis enter you. Believe me, when you are ready for more, you will know... and just take it slowly, and let him know the plan. the "plan"and the "pain" ...
good luck
and have a lot of fun...
this should be really fun....

""If only I was a mermaid... I don't know if I would come back..."

WOOOO Sex is fun for me now. for the first............ 8 times, it hurt (dont ask) but now im addicted. I WANT MOORRRE!

"little things affect little minds"

Well good - hope I don't have to tell u 2 b careful

More proof that there is a God

"A fool says I know and a wise man says I wonder."