i cheated, now what

i cheated, now what [+ favourites]

i cheated. i told my girlfriend. for some foolish reason (maybe because i didn't think she believed in monogamy anyway) i thought it would hurt, but be manageable, and we'd move on. i now know that i was stupid in thinking this, and i have no idea how to handle the pure rage and anger that is coming out of her. i love her more that anything in the world, and i can't believe i did something like this. i feel like the biggest idiot on the planet, and i'm pretty sure that i am. so, if you could please withhold judgement and just give me your own personal experiences with cheating and the aftermath, i'd really appreciate it. thanks.

Being a victim of cheating I can tell you that it is not easily repaired, in my experience there was no fixing what had happened, unfortunately you have to deal with the consequences of your actions. Maybe you will work things out but be prepared for a lot of hard work trust must be rebuilt and you basically have to start from the bottom.

"Speak out, even if what you have to say is unpopular"

You can't fix that in a day. You back off, let her breathe and in the mean time qualify yourself and stay straight so she can see that you just slipped. Everyone makes mistakes, it's showing you learned from them that counts - and slobbering her with sorries and kisses won't cut it. I'm not trying to be mean, it's blunt. She doesn't trust you, you're 20 years old, if you're not thinking about marriage right now I wouldn't trust either one of you. But if you are, then stay straight and invest in her if you think it's right.

"Milk, almonds and pistachios."