Emergency advice on relationship

Emergency advice on relationship [+ favourites]

If anyone is out there, I desperately need advice. I have been hiding something of which I am ashamed and my finance discovered it while I was out of town. I've returned, I know he knows, but I don't know how to deal with this--he's working late tonight and I fled the house.

Well, first you need to elaborate on your situation so that you can get some un-biased opinions.

"My mind is tearing me apart, then it constructively puts me back together again."

I have some erotic novels (basically featuring male dominant-type stuff--and some are pretty kinky). I've never shared this with him.

Just tell him. Erotic novels are no biggie. He might even be happy about it. .

"Spellcheck is for pussies. REAL women make mistakes."

You sick woman!

Just kidding.

Unless your husband is some crazed Christian sociopath, he should have no problem with this except for the dissapointment that you were too embarassed to tell him about it before.

Other than that, finding erotic novels (or porn for men) is part of a healthy marriage, if you ask me.

"Hating everyone protects me from elitism."

If he brings it up in conversation, take a deep breath and let it flow. If he brings home devices, enjoy.
If he doesn nothing, get him pair of handcuffs and some silk scarves.
My wife bought me some handcuffs some years ago. At first I laughed, thinking it was a gag. Now I laugh at how stupid I was.
Sexual deviancy (and I say this because there is no other correct term) is like a food craving. It is something your body wants/needs. Feed your craving, sex is our only real recreation where we don't need crash helmets or safety goggles.

P.S. Don't forget to explore HIS fantasies with him. You guys could be in for some soul-shaking adventures.
P.S.S The rule in my house is that a 'quickie' lasts 45 minutes, minimum. Unless it is in our unfenced backyard or on the street.

"Popular dissidents are merely pacifiers given to us by the Government to keep us in line and thinking someone is making a ruckuss."

*gasp* magazines?

For shame. I think you owe him an apology. Send him a card with a gift certificate to your favorite adult toy store.

I'd forgotten that aspect. I have a female friend that gives out coupons for "The Fantasy of Your Choice". It has served her well, and strengthened her paired relationship. She gives them as rewards and as apologies.

"Popular dissidents are merely pacifiers given to us by the Government to keep us in line and thinking someone is making a ruckuss."