Scared and Confused

I'm afraid of the ostracism and the vulnerability and the preconceived ideas about gay people.

Although I am still not sure about my sexual preference I have decided to make myself openly bisexual. I have already told my roommate that I am bisexual and plan to tell the rest of my friends and family very soon. I figure that even if I turn out to be straight I will have weeded out a bunch of circumstantial friends or relations I might have.

I am still scared and a little self-conscious about it but I feel this is the right thing for me to do. Tell me if I'm crazy.

I think that is a great solution. For a few reasons:

1) It's factual - we are all bisexual. Aside from reproduction, sexual intimacy is an expression of emotion, and that emotion is love. If we as humans are capable of loving both men and women, then we are capable of feeling attracted to both men and women. Therefore, we are all bisexual.

2) It provides you the freedom to pursue both men and women without scrutiny from either group.

3) It escapes the heavy social stigma of homosexuality - bisexual people are far less stereotyped than homosexuals and so you leave yourself vast amounts of freedom.

4) If you do choose to, or think it is important to, declare yourself fully homosexual in the future, this is a good interim step.

5) The truth is, homoesexual, heterosexual or bisexual, you are going to pursue whatever you are attracted to. We create these labels for the benefit of others, so they know how to place us for their comfortability. Stating that you are bisexual in essence frees yourself from any preconceived expectations of who you will or should be attracted to.

Thanks a lot Eva, you were a great help to me.