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28 Posts / 42M
     :   21yrs   :  
renae02

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My parentsa are divorced and i am having a hard time getting use to it my dad just got re-married and now. I wanna live with my mom how do i tell my dad without hurting him?


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     :   28yrs   :  
Decius

Your dad should want what's best for you, so explain it to him from the perspective of what you think is best for you.


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     :   35yrs   :  
Sorceress

At 19 years of age you are not a child anymore. If it was me, I would try and be diplomatic about it. Perhaps talk to your dad and say you think your mum needs you around for a bit and that now he is getting married his new wife and him could do with some time to be a married couple on their own. Tell him you love him and you are at the other end of the phone and just a visit away, perhaps even arrange a weekly meeting or Sunday Lunch together or something. I'm sure he will understand. Hope this helps you.


""Each child holds the world in an open hand to mould it into any shape they choose.""

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     :   28yrs   :  
Decius

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he is getting married his new wife and him could do with some time to be a married couple on their own

Generally, trying to tell someone what you want is good for them is a very selfish thing to do - it displays poor character because it means you are not confident enough to be truthful.

You should be truthful - never lie. It might be good for your dad to be alone, but that's for him to decide. What you should be concerned about is what's good for you, and that should be his concern as well.


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556 Posts / 32M
     :   20yrs   :  
ChrisD

I agree, my parents are divorced and I find that being absolutely truthful is one of the most important things to be in this kind of situation or any situation where you are really close to someone. Lies just snowball and eventually get out of hand. Tell him exactly how you feel and that you would rather live with your mom for whatever reasons sway you that way. It's really hard to do but to be absolutely truthful is probably the most relieving thing in this world.


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     :   28yrs   :  
Decius

And for all you know, it is best for you to stay with your dad. Let him be your dad.


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737 Posts / 24M
     :   35yrs   :  
Sorceress

oops! I feel like I just recieved a swift kick up the butt!


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     :   59yrs   :  
goodbyeguy

to thine own self be true but one must always let their desires be known to all parties concerned don't play the angles and don't people-please


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