It is what it is as well as what you make it.
There are always three sides, one is constant, fixed, a reality created by a power not our own, but never fully understood or seen while always influential as a structural base (black)
Another is always relative, subjective, seen by all, digested by the senses and interpreted differently by every individual mind, even when thought to be in perfect agreement (white)
The last is the mixture of the two, obvious to some, denied by just as many, both definitive and abstract, the miraculously impossibly actual contradiction that is what it is, and it is all things, (grey)
What this means for your questioning Attolia is that there are dimensions that do not restrict any form or function to any one designed, proclaimed, deducted, demanded, meaning or purpose.
A woman can be a woman and even a man or neither, a mother and a barren womb, a breadwinner and a housewife, a rocket scientist and a simple mind, happy and sad, or none of the above.
Boundaries do exist, from any number of sources and creations, but you do not have to abide by them or make them your own, but you can.
One can be a part of a society, but not of their culture, one can share ones culture but choose to grow to something different or new.
Stereotypes exist because people fall in line, exceptions to rule exist because some never will, even though they can.
Can we make accurate generalizations about people? Sex roles (ie a man's job vs. a woman's job)?
The answer to such a question is always yes, no, and maybe. Even if it makes your head hurt.
One can be one thing on the outside while another within.
Isn't that how it is normally anyway, and doesn't that make you both?
And doesn't that also make it all relative to which ever perspective it is viewed from, as well as relative to whatever aspect is viewed?