Constructive Criticism towards CC Members

who is so incommpassionate?
it really is pointless if you dont point the individuals out. otherwise they wont learn.

i beleive one of my phrases will come in handy here
"most people dont listen, they just wait for their turn to talk. and to most people a good listener is someone who is patient."
http://www.captaincynic.com/thread.php3/thrdid=61252-u-frmid=1

"Wht cry for those that often cry? Instead, help them smile, and smile for those that smile."

heyjme1, etherealmeekle, ancient, itisasiseeit, conway, evilia and somewhat leftwood, tho i think he just does a poor job showing it on the boards.

"I am Akba-Atatdia"

I'm very moody, heh. I have lots of compassion as I'm sure many and most here might. Sometimes you are just in a hurry or someone is just stupid, heh.

I think bluntness and candor, maybe even a little bit of frustrated anger, are harder levels of compassion. Some people need to have the baby gloves taken off and bitch slapped back to reality.

We all do it, as we should sometimes.

These are by no means people I'd like to so kicked, but, I've seen every admin have a hissy fit, Wyotes was before he was an admin but still, I know I've had mine.

Sometimes we just lose patients (heh, patience), but thats actually one of the things that makes this site so much more family oriented, in terms of feeling a part of one. Me likey real people, and real people mix mistakes with their successes. Gives it flavor.

Can canadians read words like color, or if it misses the u do they just become illiterate all together?

"The Greatest Enemy of Knowledge is Not Ignorance, It is the ILLUSION of Knowledge. Stephen Hawking"

Im conmpassionate but I'm ruthless. If you run into a wall and break your nose I couldn't care less. I'll even go as far as to tell you your stupid. But if you get hit over the head by a random rock or something... yeah I'll feel bad.

"Dark and silent and complete."

oh yea i dont want any of these people to be booted. it was just a trend ive noticed. i would have put my own name on the list about nine months ago.

i tend to lose compassion when ive been betrayed or hurt in some way. i think everyone could stand to be more compassionate regardless of their circumstances though.

"I am Akba-Atatdia"

This thread blows. No one has complained about me yet...

"Hating everyone protects me from elitism."
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you often appear to lack humility Decius, though not everyone considers humility a virtue.

"I am Akba-Atatdia"
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I subcribe to a similar mentality to leftwood: I love and adore all species... so much so that I will engage in verbal "beatings" so awaken some repressed rebellion within.

Although, I do concede that if I find a better alternative, I will use it.

"Hating everyone protects me from elitism."

Well, you think to much for a boy.

"My mind is tearing me apart, then it constructively puts me back together again."

*cannot contian the laughter and smile

Ok decius you want some one to talk about you....
You are overbearing, you delete posts of members here because you feel they aren't contributive which would make this about what you want and not about the people which make up the site, you are arrogant, communicating with you about somethings is just unbearable, and you will never find the end!!!!!

"Dark and silent and complete."

God I wish Metal Giant were here for this thread... He'd show us all, he'd show us!!!

"Dark and silent and complete."

I'm incompassionate; sometimes. I've changed. Reason being: the world sucks sometimes. Like it or lump it; if your a pansy it will come and kick its teeth into you at some point. I'm rebelling against a 'nanny society'. Maybe its just the UK. Anyway, what I dislike is all this 'good two shoes'. I agree in right action. Maybe there is one road that is good, the rest, deviant of it. My point is; I sense a lack of confidence, and confidnce is about inner strength. There are bullies in this world.Yyes they also have issues). Sometimes, as sad as it maybe, to get respect you have to appear confident byfitting in to the external commodities moulded. Its difficult to stand up and say what you believe against peer pressure; the very essence of this is confidence. But, also, if you look weak outwardly, your less liekly to have respect-so rather than go read, it may also be necessary to build up strength phsyically; mind AND body.

What this means is not saying coherent sentences then not having the balls to go out and do what you say. Every time I dont do something I preach I fail. Ultimately, I am what I hate. Its not entirelty a lack of compassion, but realising that sometimes you have to be harsh to be fair.

""No words""

oh ancient.. allow me.

Decius- sure, you have very little humility, but honestly, i dont think you need it. really, who have you met thats smarter than you? i'll tell you who, me. (instigating on porpuse. i still have yet to get a good judgement by anyone who wil listen to my defense.)
you have recently fouind out that an un-educated, in-experienced, severely deprived person has the same capability of dealing with certain things that you do. this kid is also 17 and uses the alias awakendwraith.
i also beleive that i am a better thinker than you are, because you easily come to the conclusion that you are right. when in actuality, you have no idea. why is this better? you are still completely satisfied/ happy with this. arent you?.. no. you arent. if you were you wouldnt need a vacation society. you could deal with almost anything using your method. so i think you lie to yourself. call it what you will, but when you repeatedly tell yourself something so that you start to beleive it, thats lying. and lying is faking. and faking is bottleing up.
you bottle up. i dont. actually, i havent met anyone who doesnt bottle up except me. yes decius, you are that pathetic. and even more, you arent ok with it. i know i am pathetic in my own way, but im cool with it. that doesnt mean i dont do anything about it, just that i dont need an outlet to go to sleep at night.
so where the fuck is your humility?
i know you have it. i really do. that was just me teasing you, but you dont use it when you need to. there is no reason, no good one for me at least, to be humiliated at all times.
but you seem to not remember what it was like to not to be able to think. you dont give idiots a chance. you dont even try to teach them. you would make a good teacher? bullshit. you'd be a horrible one in the average high-school. you would be an unbeleiveable tutor. but the student would have to be naturally intelligent. it seems like you have such little respect for people, sometimes, no, it used to make me want to punch you in the face. mainly that was because i thought you were simply and older, more indian, version of me. but you arent. we are different. for the same reasons that i am able to deal with shit 9 years faster than you, i am that much stronger.
you are almost incapable of letting it go. and if you do let it go, or at least i think, the only smile on your face is one of victory and not acceptance. and for this, i am better than you. you should probably work on that. the only other ways you probably deal with it are, "they are stupid. dont give them the power to bother me.", or " i am right. no need to think anymore." you should probably work on that too.

theres a lot more, but this is getting lengthy.

"Wht cry for those that often cry? Instead, help them smile, and smile for those that smile."

Ancient: It is important to distinguish between me doing what I want at the expense of others and me doing what I want in conjunction with the benefit of others. The difference between me and someone who may act in a similar way is grand if the motives are different. So although I understand that my motives can be pigeonholed, in doing so you would be choosing to assume you know why I do what I do because that is an easier and more feasible thing to do.

And although I'm sure this will sound like I have delusions of grandeur, I feel that my motives and actions are revolutionary in my ability to apply empathy and morality to entice everyone around me to be better people. This forum is one facet of this application... and it definitely helps me learn how to communicate more adequately to people.

awakend: I think that Attiola's post becomes relevent here: You will undoubtedly alienate those you may hope to criticize by trying to make them less than you and your thoughts will become stale and blocked.

It is obvious that your intention in your post was not to aid me in my behaviour, but rather an attempt to assert that you are better than me. This is proven by your repeated (vague) critcism of me compared to your virtues.

If one has truly achieved greatness, then that needs no justification. And attempting to justify it in comparison to anyone else is a sign of self-loathing.

You are intimidated by me, awakend. And although you claim over and over that you are not but rather wish to learn more about/from me, the truth is your reasoning behind this is not bettering yourself, but pacifying your insecurities... Because as I stated in one of our first conversations, you are used to being the smartest person you know.

Hence, when I complimented you on your adequate handling of an emotionally distressful situation, you took that as a sign that you had achieved this level.

And I will not attempt to remove you from your pedestal, because I am and have always been aware that although you may search for knowledge, you are sidetracked by competition.

See? My criticism of you has a logical basis. It states a viral path that results in your behaviour. And most importantly, I do not attempt to make you feel small in doing so. If you do feel small, those are your own insecurities clamping you.

heyjme1's point stands. Some people try to offend and some people take offence and things that "could" be offensive. My post may seem like a similar rebuttal to yours, but it is severely different.

In your post you vented insecurity in an attempt to make me insecure. You have failed, because I can predict you. I predicted your dillusions of grandeur the moment I agreed that you achieved something great. I hoped, somewhere, that this would perhaps give you the peace of mind you need to then seek information and educate yourself... but it is apparent this is not the case.

It is apparent that you would jump from person to person, trying to exceed all you can... not for yourself... but to prove yourself.

And unfortunately, you will not succeed with me.

"Hating everyone protects me from elitism."

Though there is a kinship I can never be a rock

In response to your message to me, decius, I do understand that you mean well and I am sure that your motives aren't against any of us here on CC. I simply said what bothered me about yourself and in no way can you change that. I dislike because it's what I do. As long as you feel your right then I'm happy for you.

"If one has truly achieved greatness, then that needs no justification. And attempting to justify it in comparison to anyone else is a sign of self-loathing." I agree with this.
However, I feel that it isn't so much greatness but completeness. People who believe they are great see themselves as trully better than others and at that point I disagree.

"And unfortunately, you will not succeed with me." Here is your arrogance... being an arrogant person myself I conflict with this. Though I accept it as a mutual trate we share I still don't like it.

As for AW... since I'm up and got nothing else to do.

People don't need to be fixed. Sure I'm being a hypocrite right now. Trying to fix you by telling you not to fix people. As I have said before life is hypocrasy. There is nothing you can do to fix a persons life or mind just because you feel they aren't thinking up to par. Sure lifes a bitch but thats what it's all about.
And one thing that irkes me is that I can picture two rocket scientists having a serious discussion and you come up trying to give them tips. You sir are not a rocket scientist. At which point I believe you would try to make a joke and lighten the mood. Trying too hard is something that bothers me... even about myself. Trully this is not letting things slide now is it?

At this point I will give you both the finger.

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"Dark and silent and complete."