Need Advice concerning Relationship: PLEASE HELP!

Need Advice concerning Relationship: PLEASE HELP! [+ favourites]

I've been in a relationship with this guy for over four years. We have had a lot of issues but it all comes down to YES (sighs) I LOVE HIM. He has been to jail, he has been on hard drugs, I have cheated... its been a long roller coaster of a ride. But through it all we always had a healthy sex life.

But now, that we are a lot more stable financially my guy is doing so many right things.... things that I have always wanted etc. Guess what? the sex life completly sucks. He says he loves me to death and that this fact hasn't changed... but come on... I need your opinions if your significant other need to watch porn and be under the influence of a drug to get up and f_ck you wouldn't you think that that would mean that he/ she was not interested anymore?Or is cheating? Is this just me? or can I get an AMEN!! Please be honest and let me know if I'm tripping or if Im going down the right thought pattern...

Thank YOU!!! I'm really stressing over this

its very easy to think something is wrong. but he could very well just be going through a transition in his life. if he has a lot of other things on his mind it may not be as easy as it used to be. this is not your fault. the real test is seeing if he is willing to work on making it better. if you confront him about it in a loving way, and simply ask what might be the cause, well if he is willing to work through it with you then he is most likely being faithful. but if he is obstinate and unwilling to discuss things... well you may have a serious problem on your hands.

"I am Akba-Atatdia"

Thanks for the advice....I've t ried talking to him... and he recently came out of jail etc... and he says he need time to adjust but I don't think that being sexual with me should need any adjusting timellll I I just feel so low when we are close anymore... I know he is going through some issuse where he doens't feel very much incontrol of situation sbut why does that hace to affect our sex life...

sounds like you are being a little selfish in the relationship, thats definately not going to get you what you want.

"I am Akba-Atatdia"

jaded.....i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he was in jail too,also had a drug/alcohol problem......we have had the same problems....you just have to be patient,he's dealing with a lot right now,and you harping about your sex life is not going to help......support him if you love him.....give it time...masterbate

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