Whats wrong with me?

Whats wrong with me? [+ favourites]

Ok whenever a girl is flirting with me, and she wants me to do something freaky with her, something happens. I mean i flirt with her but when it becomes sexual i just cant do it.

This chick was flirting with me and then she wanted me to feel her tits, but i just couldnt do it. IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?

By the way i was raised in a abusive family(my father beat up my mom alot, im glad hes gone).

O and another thing, this phenominom happens when im with a chick that i really dont know. If im with with a chick i know then everything works out perfectly, but when im with someone who i dont know and were just flirting i dont know something just goes wrong. Whats wrong with me?

Hey, nothing is wrong with you, becuse I went through this phase as well. To be honest, Im not exactly sure what it is, or why it happens, but I think it has to do with being comfortable. Truly comfortable. At least thats how it was for me. I dated a girl for 2 years, and when we broke up, anything sexual with another girl, couldnt happen. I had no idea why, it just felt so weird not being with that one girl. I met a new girl (my recent ex), and we would do sexual things, but when it came to actual sex, definatly wasnt happening. I wanted to, but I just wasnt comfortable, and in return, we couldnt have sex. It took me about 4 months to get comfortable, and once I got past that first hump (no pun intended), it was on. lol. But then again, this was just my experience, but nothing is wrong with you, I think every guy goes through this at least once. Maybe Im wrong. But dont worry, you're gunna be just fine.

"Aint flashed a smile in a long while...."

Yo im scurde now... Is the same thing gonna happen to me? Sometimes i can tell if a girl is checking me out just by looking straight at them in thier eyes or i have a feeling that there watching me. Is this going to happen to me as well? Cuz I know all the guys want "booty" but are we willing to take that risk?

"I'm just another person in this place, which is why its my advantage."
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you shouldnt be doing anything sexual with anyone unless you are completely comfortable with them. aside from things feeling a lot better, you also work through things much better if you are on very good terms with the other person.

its always hard to make that first move, starting out with anyone is almost always at least a tiny bit awkward.

"UNIX is an operating system, OS/2 is half an operating system, Windows is a shell, and DOS is a boot partition virus. ~Peter H. Coffin"

In my opinion, it can be traced back to your abusive father. You simply do not want to be like him, and you may feel that going past flirting with a stranger is the same as forcing yourself on her. Since you have no troubles with people you know, that would indicate that you are perfectly aware of their voluntary intimate intentions. Hence no worry about any possible forcing. That make sense?

You worry about it, and thats a good, healthy thing. If you ever stop being concerned, then it is time to BE concerned. Now get off my couch, you normal person you.

"Oops, it appears I have run over your dogma with my karma."

what!!? Imay be young but ive had sex so many times it aint funny. but its a phase all of us o thourgh it

"live long live free"

.........some people. some people.

"Aint flashed a smile in a long while...."

Yea i guess pagans right, i had an abusive father and he beat my mom up alot, and raped her. So maybe thats affecting me