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Aching in my Chest

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54 Posts / 53M
     :   26yrs   :  
silhouettedevil

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After dating a girl for over 3 months we have decided to become friends again. I know as well as she knows that we rushed too fast into a physical aspect. I can understand this and I do know that she needs time to sort out problems(she just got out of 2 previous relationships.) I know I jumped the gun on asking her out, I just felt something inside me... Anyways, now that we are friends again I still feel a pain inside me. I wanna know what I can do to cope with this. Knowing that I will prolly see her often than not also raises the feelings inside of me. One day we do hope to go out again togeather. She just needs to adjust her life for a while. Yet in the mean time, it hurts, and alot of times I want to tell her and I want to cry, but it just doesn't come out. Can I get some advice on what I should try to do to handle my situation. Thanks alot


"Everyone leaves. In the End. Everything Dies. In the End. It doesn't matter how hard you hold on. "Mortiis-Everyone Leaves""

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2876 Posts / 57M
     :   24yrs   :  
Wyote

that doesnt sound like a very healthy relationship to begin with, but i cant judge. instead of thinking about the fact that you two are no longer "together" try focusing on how great the time is that you do spend with her. what is a title anyway? you both care for eachother, yes? enjoy being her friend as much as possible for now.


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54 Posts / 53M
     :   26yrs   :  
silhouettedevil

That is good advice. Maybe I'm just over-inflating a situation b/c of the way I think. We still care for each other. things don't seem to hurt anymore... i think i will enjoy being her friend. thanks again


"Everyone leaves. In the End. Everything Dies. In the End. It doesn't matter how hard you hold on. "Mortiis-Everyone Leaves""

351 Posts / 62M
     :   19yrs   :  
Dugbug

This is what they call a break I think. And for the most part people do get back together after a break.(Unless you are the 1 out of 1000000 guys that don't, kinda like me.) And yeah you probably just have too many thoughts going on and maybe some questions that might not be answered about what is going on. Just take it as an oppurtunity to try and start over again.


"If the opposite of Pro is Con, then is the opposite of Progress, Congress?"

54 Posts / 53M
     :   26yrs   :  
silhouettedevil

Yeah, I need to pick up a hobby or something...lawn darts...that could be fun


"Everyone leaves. In the End. Everything Dies. In the End. It doesn't matter how hard you hold on. "Mortiis-Everyone Leaves""

3 Posts / 53M
     :   24yrs   :  
Ashamaly

I think you should talk to her and let her know how you feel. You can't keep these feelings inside forever.. It's not healthy. I'm sure if you have a talk with her, you will undertand how she feels and you can get a greater understanding of how you feel... I found it has worked for me in the past.

Hope that helped...


"Maybe in order to understand mankind we have to look at that word itself. MANKIND. Basically, it's made up of two separate words "mank"and "ind." What do these words mean? It's a mystery and that's why so is mankind. - J"

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